I lost something I thought I'd never lose and now, it is Forever gone

Friendship is such a great thing, especially when it's with genuine people. These people are few and far between and I'm proud to say that I have a few. When I heard the news Jan 29th, 2015, that my good friend Scott had suddenly died, my heart fell into my toes. My mind raced, my heart pounded and I was extremely nauseous. The fun times, the stories, the bond was forever gone. I was lost. I called his mother to offer my condolences, only to find out how horribly other people were taking advantage of his death. I could do nothing, completely helpless. The person who always has an idea for everything, was at a standstill. You see, Scott's estranged dad had decided that he would, because he could, pay for the funeral of his son. It is tragic for a parent to not only have to bury their child, but the burden they incur paying for all the expenses. I know because I saw my own parents go throygh these burdens with my brother. His mother had helped Scott his whole life, his daughter and 2 beautiful sons as well. I had never even heard Scott so much as speak about his father, let alone did I know his name nor had ever met him. This "man", Scott's dad, took it upon himself to make all the decisions and arrangements for the funeral. Why not? He was paying for it so he should be able to do as he saw fit, right? Except this "man" decided that Scott did not deserve to have his final farewells. He didn't deserve to have his friends and loved ones come honor him. You see, Scott's dad decided that only immediate family need be at the calling and funeral. I hate this man for that and I can count the things I hate on one hand. Scott was young and full of life so of course he had many friends and loved ones. Scott just passed away 4 mornings ago and has already been buried without so much as an obituary! How does this happen? A guy, who hasn't been in his son's life for decades, decides that he can judge who can and can't say goodbye to his son? I am Outraged! I have Reds baseball cards and Colts memorabilia to put in his coffin. I wanted/needed to see him one last time. Who is this jerk to decide that no one can pay their final respects to Anyone, let alone your own son? This is beyond my comprehension and I'm a relatively intelligent person. Scott's mom is quiet and meek and is upset. Unfortunately as time passes, she will be more upset as she realizes what this man has done. Many people do not even know of his passing. I want to look this "man" in the eye and explain to him all he robbed his son from and how he robbed all those who love and care about Scott. Tragically, that would be pointless. The damage has been done and I'll never get to see my friend again. I've been overcome with emotion by this series of events so please understand if I do not make complete sense. All I can do now is have my own personal ceremony and say goodbye to my wonderful friend. I truly hope I never have to cross paths with his dad, it would not be a good day for either of us. This is Not how I want to honor my friend but I had to get this off my chest. I love you Scott, forever and always. I know you're up there with Seth and Ryan and too many of our loved ones. I will keep an eye on your mom and make sure she's ok. Please forgive me for not knowing sooner, I would have fought for all that I'm worth to see you one last time. You had the best laugh ever, one of those infectious laughs. So many great memories I have of you and I will treasure them always. I'm so sorry I didn't know...I love you~